Dear Ultimate Abbey, I cannot seem to be able to socialize like I use to… it’s all about the kids! I need balance! When I do focus on me I feel like I am being selfish. Help!

Good Day Miss Can’t Get Social LOL Just kidding this is really hard for me too; however, I work on it and I am getting better. You need things for you! I had a realization

Good Day Miss Can’t Get Social LOL Just kidding this is really hard for me too; however, I work on it and I am getting better. You need things for you! I had a realization the other weekend when I finally got some social time and not my son talking about fortnight! Actual social time… We were invited to a 40th surprise birthday party, bring your kids! These are usually fun for us because we are blessed with great friends who have great families.

Talking to another mom… We get chatting about her side business she began about a year ago. She started creating used furniture pieces into new found treasures.

Our conversation spun off as we talked about the things we have been doing for us. It’s all to often our conversations go right to the kids. Yes our kids are great and they are doing great things, etc etc (Johnny got first honors *insert eye roll *) and we love them very much.

BUT there is more and there should be more. I’m not saying be selfish I’m saying your kids shouldn’t define you. They are part of your world, a big part, but if YOU aren’t your world your gonna lose you in the midst of raising your kids.

What?! Call me heartless… Think about it moms?! If  you can’t define you with only mentioning your kids what happens when they fly from the nest? My suggestion is next time you are out or with another mom or have a minute to socialize ask about that woman and how she is doing not just about her kids and talk about you and not just your kids!

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Good LUCK!

Sincerely,

Ultimate Abbey

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