Dear Ultimate Abbey, Do you have to start your relationship strong to be a strong couple? Others are telling me to end it before it is to late…

Dear Committed (in a good way LOL), Every relationship begins differently and has its own unique story. Our beginning was less than ideal. We were young adults but living like teenagers. We worked but we

Dear Committed (in a good way LOL),

Every relationship begins differently and has its own unique story.

Our beginning was less than ideal. We were young adults but living like teenagers.

We worked but we played harder than we worked. For years we played and played. We played until… someone got hurt… we both were hurt, we got pregnant very unexpectedly. There were many unhealthy aspects of our relationship which we have been repairing within the last 12+ years of our relationship. Communication, respect, love are just a few topics we have improved on.

We work on improving our relationship daily even more than a decade later it is still a work in progress.

Our beginning was less than ideal. Remaining friends throughout my pregnancy and then finding love after.

I have many details about the in-between of our relationship; however, to keep this short, our relationship did not start strong. Family and friends said we should have ended it. Fast forward to today we have never been stronger.

We became stronger as time has gone on and we have centered God in the middle of our marriage and family at home to create an atmosphere of love.

When you are committed to a person, you are committed. It takes work and every day is not perfect. If you and your partner are both committed and willing to strengthen your relationship it can work!

Figure out what you both need to work on and then take it from there. Make a list of things you want to improve on. Don’t pick on your partner, write the things YOU need to work on. Have your partner do the same. Sit down and have a 15-minute conversation about your lists. Any more than 15 minutes can sometimes turn a productive conversation in to an argument. Good Luck! Let me know how it goes : )

Sincerely,

Ultimate Abbey

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